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Why Are You Here?

It is my firm belief that we are all here for a reason. Now when I say the word “all”, though I also mean that we as a collective of human beings, as humanity, are here for a reason, my specific point here is that each individual, you, me, and every individual that we know is here for a reason. Each one of us is here on a mission. And before we look into how to find our own specific purpose, it’s important to realize that just as I and you are here on a specific mission in their lives, so too is every individual that we come in contact with.

The question is in essence “why” am I hear. Once we can identify the why, we can then build a plan that will allow us to put it into action. To create the physical change in the real world that is a reflection of our purpose. That is in essence the “success” we are supposed to achieve.

Now let me be clear. When I say that that is the success we are “supposed” to achieve, it is up to each individual to decide, to dictate what we are supposed to do. No one else can nor should decide what is right for us. As will be discussed later successful people choose their own life.

So how do we decide what our life purpose is? How do we decide what our own individual “why” is? I think it is our own personal or inner guidance system. An airline pilot or rather an automated self pilot on a transatlantic flight constantly monitors its course. Though the plane is traveling thousands of miles it is never exactly on course. As a passenger, and if you are pilot, you will notice that the plane is always making adjustments on its path to its destination.

So too in life. We set our goals, we find our reason, and we launch into life on a trajectory toward success. But along the way we are given guidance. That guidance comes by way of many indicators. We get feedback from those around us. We get reminded that we might be slightly off course by failures or limited successes along the way. Add to these our own internal gut feel, along with logic and common sense, that allow us to correct, and we have a complete guidance system. All these indicators, or rather feedback mechanisms also help us determine our purpose.

There is one other aspect needs to be taken in to account in our search for our own purpose.

It is quite helpful to think of not only the “corrections” on our path to success but perhaps more importantly the joys that we have experienced since childhood. If we put together a list of all the things that are or that have been joyful to us and combine those with a list of our strengths we can begin to identify what our purpose, our mission is.

Monday Motivator – How we React When We Are Down is the Key

If you have ever been down. If you are down now, please please understand that it is in these moments that success calls. These tough times are simply a test, simply part of the path to achieving our destiny, our brighter days, our calling!

Enjoy this great compilation that says it so well (6 min):

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

I heard a speech given by a friend recently who talked about his tour at the offices Facebook in California. He described how everywhere you turned there were posters and banners that asked this one simple question. “What would you do if you were not afraid?”

That really seems to be the gist of it all. Imagine pursuing your dreams with no fear. No fear of failure. No fear of success. No fear of what people might say. The list seems endless. Imagine for a moment that you can do anything you want with no real negative ramifications should you fail.

Imagine being able to have it all!

I know that when I remove fear completely from my mind I can, at least in my imagination, truly accomplish great things. But yet the fear really is there. The thing that I do know however is that whenever I take action. Whenever I use action to cure fear I always move forward until I may not always succeed the fear always goes away.

But when I do succeed I know that I would not have reached that success without having had to overcome certain elements and certain levels of fear.

So imagine what’s possible. Overcome your fears in order to achieve your goals. But in order to set your goals take fear of the picture so that you can get a clear picture of what your true goals really are. The of course, pursue them!

The Motivators – Pain (Part 2 of 7)

Pain. It’s really a matter of choosing which pain you prefer. The pain you are experiencing in your current situation versus the pain of change. Usually people stay in the same situation because in their minds it is more painful to go through change than it is to endure the pain of sour relationships, weak or even worse, negative finances, and poor health. Choose your pain point and see what’s more important to you. A better life which sometimes (usually…) requires  painful change, or being easy on yourself today because that is less painful. As they say, be easy on yourself and have a hard life or be hard on yourself and have an easy life.

Once you understand that the temporary pain of change is worth “suffering” as compared to the chronic pain of a bad situation you have in your hands a great motivator to make progress towards success.

The Motivators – Disgust (Part 2 of 7)

Endless Motivation
Endless Motivation

Being motivated is key to reaching your goals. It’s very easy, well sometimes easy, to start on the path towards your goals but without motivation it is doubtful you will reach your goals. Here is the first of seven ways to become and stay motivated on your path to success.

Disgust. The highest motivation, which I myself experienced, happened to me on my own “day of disgust”. I remember it clearly. We had moved apartments three times within a period of 14 months. And believe me it was not because we were looking for better scenery or nicer a layout. Yes we had been moving from eviction to eviction. Finally the then current landlord was angry enough, and my own personality and maturity evolved enough, to finally allow me to become absolutely disgusted with myself. And I said NO MORE.

Jim Rhon talks about the specific point in time that many if not all reach and is the turnaround point in their lives. The point of disgust! And so the first motivator, and I wonder if it would be appropriate to call it a prime motivator, is the point of disgust. Mr. Rohn’s point of disgust occurred in his famous girl guides cookie story where he was 20 years old and, since he had no money on him, and none in the bank, he told the 8 year old girl guide cookie seller at his door that he had several boxes in the closet and therefore did not need any new boxes right now. He realized that he was no longer willing to lie to eight-year-olds. He was disgusted with himself. He was motivated!

Use Feedback to Your Advantage

Listen
Listen

Many times there are those that are “kind enough” to give us feedback. Unfortunately that feedback sometimes comes not from a constructive place but rather from a place of jealousy or even worse I need to put you down so that the provider of the feedback to put themselves up there.

And many times, or perhaps less times if you will, the feedback that is given to us is sincere. It comes from a place of really wanting to help you. Whatever the case may be and whatever the motivations are of the person giving the feedback you can learn from both. Whenever someone is speaking with you, and it does not even have to be within the framework of feedback, pay close attention. There’s always something to learn. When somebody gives advice pay close attention.

It is not always easy to do but try and keep your mind on two things when someone is speaking with you. On the one hand and he can only do one do this one, they close attention to what they’re saying so that you can respond appropriately. And of course you need to be really listening, and not just preparing what you have to say in the time that the person in front of you speaking. Truly listen to understand, to share, to be with the person that is expressing themselves to you, perhaps even better said, with you.

If however you can think about two things while the person is speaking with you then please by all means do this. The second thing to think about is how you can learn from your own personal growth from what is being said to you at that moment. And all this is within the framework of the discussion. It is not necessarily a conversation in which you are being provided feedback.

A third area that warrants very sharp, very attentive focus, is that of receiving feedback. Whether the person delivering the feedback is doing so from a positive and healthy place or from negative and destructive place listen to feedback. There is a message in there for you take that message in whatever form it comes to improve yourself and improve your outcomes.

Sometimes the feedback will be painful to hear that perhaps that is even better. It means that the words being spoken to are actually right on target.