Category Archives: Choices

Believe It’s Possible

It's Possible!
It’s Possible!

No one, and I mean no one is so much smarter than you that you cannot achieve the same of levels of success in any area(s) of life that you choose, if not more. Yes, there is a full spectrum of people with vast amounts of knowledge. And perhaps there is some “genetics” to being smart, or skilled in certain areas, but all human beings are capable of achieving pretty much the same levels of knowledge, intelligence, and skills.

Certainly we are all born into circumstances that are more conducive or less conducive to acquiring the knowledge and skills needed to achieve the success we envision. BUT, and that is a BIG BUT, everyone can, should they choose to, be successful.

And so, the first thing you must do is believe. Believe that your dreams can be achieved. Believe its possible, even if its never been done before, not only by you but by anyone else on the planet either. Once you believe that your dreams, your visions, your “success” can become reality in this world then it surely can happen.

We have been blessed with the gift of imagination. And if the imagination can piece it together, so too can reality. So too can your own reality.

After your dream becomes “real” within the realm of the imagination, the next stage is to develop, to “evolve” those images to include the real world. Take it step-by-step. Look at final picture, imagine yourself giving a speech building that home, living in the home, having a wonderful relationship, and then take several steps back within your imagination and simply put together the very achievable, but very reachable and tangible steps you “actually” go through in order to reach your destination. Your dream!

Steps in the belief process:

Believe in the imagination – trust that we as human beings have been given the gift of being able to paint our own picture.

Believe in your capability – along with the gift of imagination comes the gift of our ability to bring about in the real world, all that we can imagine.

Believe in your ability to take the next step towards the dream – in order to solidify your belief in being able to reach any goal you set for yourself, very simply look at the next step needed to move in the direction of attaining that dream. Simply believe, without even taking any step at all, that you were able to take the next step.

Believe in your ability to reach completion of each small step – then, in order to perhaps overcome any fears that he might have, to complete that next step.

Since this section is about belief, about feeling, I will not mention the next obvious step which is to take action.

As each step/stage is successfully completed, not only will your self confidence begin to skyrocket, but your vision will become more and more believable. You will also find that it becomes easier and easier to believe in yourself, the most important person you may want or need to prove anything to.

100% Responsibility

Who's Responsible?
Who’s Responsible?

Among the many “single most important factors” on the road to success is the one of taking 100% responsibility for all that not only has occurred in our lives but more importantly, what will occur in our lives.

It is quite easy to find all the reasons in the world why we either have not progressed, cannot progress, or will not progress towards a better life. Whether that better life be in the area of relationships, health, finance, what have you, we always find an excuse, some way of pardoning ourselves from a more satisfying, rewarding, or even acceptable life.

Yes, as any successful person will tell us, the only way to achieve what we want in life is by taking 100% responsibility. When we look at the word “responsibility” we see a clue that can guide us on our quest. It is the “ability” to “respond”. In every situation that life presents us we have the free choice to respond how we wish. That response is what will shape our future in the short and long term.

Should we “choose” to blame the economy, our spouse, children, boss, weight, bank manager, parents, what and who ever, we in essence choose to allow others to design our lives for us. In the words of Jim Rohn “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”

When we choose however to design and create our own outcomes then we choose the path of success, in all areas of life. Of course, all the external factors play a roll in what we can do to a certain extent but they can never determine the final outcome. No, we cannot change others. If we have truly done our best and are still “stuck” in that bad relationship, that depressing job, that toxic neighborhood, that not-so-great financial situation, then we very well may not be able to even set the positive example needed in the hope that others will change. We may need to make some very hard decisions and change the environment we are in by leaving it.

There’s a story about school boy who would open his lunchbox every day and complain, “Here we go again, I always have tuna sandwiches for lunch!” One day, his friend asked, “Why don’t you ask your mom to prepare a different lunch for you tomorrow?” The boy replied, “My mother doesn’t make my lunch, I do.”

Do you have a “tuna sandwich” in your life? A situation you complain about every day but don’t do anything about? Don’t do anything to change your outcomes?

  • Do you hate your job so much that you get chest pains every morning before work?
  • Are you in a relationship that makes you cry more than it makes you laugh?
  • Are you aware that you’re carrying some extra weight, but planning to start exercising tomorrow? Next week? Next month?
  • Do you know that incorporating fruits and vegetables to your diet is beneficial, but you never buy fruits and vegetables?

The reason people are living “tuna sandwich” situations is because they are not taking full ownership of their lives. 100% responsibility, 100% of the time! In my own personal experience I’ve learned that the most important step a person must take in order to create the lives of their dreams is taking 100% responsibility of their lives. Not 99%, 100%!

The word “rationalize” come to mind. When we stop “rationalizing”, making “rations” of the amount of personal responsibility we have for our own outcomes, and start understanding and “knowing”, that the only person who can truly bring a better life to ourselves is ourselves, we start moving towards that better life.

A Father’s Choice

Quite powerful, this short film (5 min), is the story of a father who truly loves his son and yet is forced to make the ultimate choice. Sometimes in life when we pursue our goals the plan doesn’t always go the way we would like. As a matter-of-fact from personal experience and from hearing the stories of others almost everything, if not everything, comes through sacrifice. As is seen in this story of this man’s pain he comes to realize his ultimate mission.