This is a movie (The Kumbaya Movie, 3:15 min) that has inspired me for years. When we realize that we are in essence the creators of our own destiny, we are then empowered to create our lives the way we wish. Along the lines of James Allen’s “As a man thinketh”, our outer life (character and circumstances) is a result, an outcome, of our inner thoughts. This short clip from Mary Robinson Reynolds is right on:
Sometimes in life we come across things that aren’t exactly the way we would like them to be. We wake up in the morning, having our day planned, and then all of a sudden “life” hits us. We plan on picking up the dry cleaning at a certain hour only to find out that it will not be ready until the next day. We call our spouse and are blindsided by an onslaught of “questions” that sound more like an interrogation than a search for “understanding”. Or, we planned our monthly budget only to find out that a not so minor repair will be needed at home which blows the budget. Or G-d forbid we receive news of an illness or tragedy in the family.
The question is, how do we look at these things? Should we take them as a bullet to the chest? Or can we take them somehow in some more positive light?
The answer quite simply, and as I mentioned above, is just a YES! That is, we can of course say NO to the circumstance, and either way we will feel pain. We will feel the pain as we fight our emotions, and engage the situation. And we will feel the pain even if we accept the situation (by saying Yes). But, when we say “no” we are trying to fight the reality that just cannot be changed. When we say yes we are in essence accepting the reality, albeit with the pain that goes along with it, but by saying yes we are now empowered to do something about it. That something may well include a plan and the ability to change the reality were presented with. Or, it will be simply to accept that reality and find ways to positively cope with the things we did not plan on and would rather do without. One comes from a point of being a victim, the other of being a creator, a person with power.
So just say yes to life and feel the relief that can bring along with the inspiration.
I just finished my first reading of Susan Jeffers’, Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. In it she describes her “whole life” approach to resilience. Basically what it says is that when “life” hits you in one specific area of your life, for example, your relationship with someone very important to you, if you look only at that aspect of your life, or rather, if your life is literally based solely on that one area, you are surely going to be not only very upset but quite likely quite traumatized and very much unstable.
Quite simply, if your life is made up only of one aspect, such as the current relationship failure you are in, then should that relationship fall apart the following will happen.
At first your entire life looks like the following picture with your relationship being a label of your whole life diagram.
A healthier approach to life would be to realize that there are many aspects that make up your life. The following diagram, taken from Jeffers’ book shows how you can find joy and stability within many many areas of your life and especially in the collection of them all together. Then, using the same example as above, should one aspect become “broken”, i.e. the broken down relationship, you can easily see how the rest of your life is still quite full. It also helps you feel very much stable.
The additional point of course is that not only is a this much healthier outlook, and makes life more promising, but that we begin recognize and realize all the good there is in all blessings that we truly have.
I had an interesting discussion with my son this morning. We were talking about how even once someone sets a goal for themselves they still need to take action. And sometimes the first physical action that is taken is not only the most important, but also the most difficult. I started to think of examples I could give him in this to demonstrate. And thankfully I believe there is one that is no better than this.
G-d, in creating the world in essence gave us the model. He took a first “physical” action. As is described to us in the book of Breishit (Genesis), G-d, though not described as such, thought about creating a world. And His first “physical” action was that of saying what was about to be created during each of the six days. For example, “Let there be light”. Since we believe that God has no actual physical attributes, that “action” is in essence God’s “physical” action.
And that is the model for us all. In order to bring to reality the things that we think about, the things that we envision, we must take that first physical action towards achieving each of our goals. And then we can continue taking those small steps which we all know will end up becoming the fruition and achievement of our goals.
There are times in life (if not always…) when we should just go with the flow. In this short clip from a short while back from Building 43 the focus is on Solar Energy driven cars. I was intrigued by a sentence in the middle of the clip at marker 1:55 in. The line? “60% to 80% of the energy of a car is used to push air out of the way”
I find this line most intriguing. Is it not true that we seem to spend so much time and energy just “pushing air out of the way”?I believe it comes down to simply making the right decisions. Living a life of our higher selves. Once we are in line with the “truth”, that is the truth of our own integral life. Then and only then will we stop pushing air. Then and only then can our energy follow the Pareto Principal, or the 80/20 rule, in a more positive way and rather than spending 80% of our energy pushing air the way we spent 80% of our energy making progress in the most efficient way possible. Here is the clip:
I am feeling good today. Have been for the past several months, plus/minus a small dip for a day or two in the middle. Keeping up the positive attitude and positive feelings. Then, someone, actually a 70 year old female someone, made my day even better.
As I took my place on the the light rail today in Jerusalem I accidentally elbowed a women sitting next to the place I wanted to stand, in the head! I did not see her and then was aghast at myself when I turned to apologize and saw that I had just struck a 70+ year old lady in the head.
As I begged forgiveness, she immediately said, “That’s OK, I guess I needed that…” WOW! What an attitude. I immediately complimented her on her great attitude and added that her approach to life was especially “special” today, being the day after Yom Kippur, the Jewish Holyday for atonement. Many people would have given me such a look, and perhaps rightfully so…, but this lady.
Thanks for the life lesson my dear “yound lady”
Had a converstion with someone recently. He was convinced that a certain service provider was obligated to provide a higher level service for no extra fee. Why? Because the service was not working properly. Problem, this individual was basically in breach of contract by virtue of not using the service properly. ( I am obviously leaving all names and company references anonymous so as not to offend anyone…)
THE QUESTION becomes one of world view. Is the world, or more specifically, the people I do business with serve me, or do I serve them?
THE ANSWER of course is both. If my supplier does not serve me well, my business day, my business success, becomes that much more dificult. But if I treat my supplier with less resepct for his bottom line, in the end I will lose. I will lose in better service, in better relations with suppliers when I really need them, and at the end of the day, in a better and happier life for all.
Yes, I need to watch my bottom line. I need though to keep in mind that everyone needs to do that if there is to be an economy at all.