Many times there are those that are “kind enough” to give us feedback. Unfortunately that feedback sometimes comes not from a constructive place but rather from a place of jealousy or even worse I need to put you down so that the provider of the feedback to put themselves up there.
And many times, or perhaps less times if you will, the feedback that is given to us is sincere. It comes from a place of really wanting to help you. Whatever the case may be and whatever the motivations are of the person giving the feedback you can learn from both. Whenever someone is speaking with you, and it does not even have to be within the framework of feedback, pay close attention. There’s always something to learn. When somebody gives advice pay close attention.
It is not always easy to do but try and keep your mind on two things when someone is speaking with you. On the one hand and he can only do one do this one, they close attention to what they’re saying so that you can respond appropriately. And of course you need to be really listening, and not just preparing what you have to say in the time that the person in front of you speaking. Truly listen to understand, to share, to be with the person that is expressing themselves to you, perhaps even better said, with you.
If however you can think about two things while the person is speaking with you then please by all means do this. The second thing to think about is how you can learn from your own personal growth from what is being said to you at that moment. And all this is within the framework of the discussion. It is not necessarily a conversation in which you are being provided feedback.
A third area that warrants very sharp, very attentive focus, is that of receiving feedback. Whether the person delivering the feedback is doing so from a positive and healthy place or from negative and destructive place listen to feedback. There is a message in there for you take that message in whatever form it comes to improve yourself and improve your outcomes.
Sometimes the feedback will be painful to hear that perhaps that is even better. It means that the words being spoken to are actually right on target.